My second child is coming soon, so I picked up Siblings Without Rivalry. Actually I listened to the audio book, free provided by NLB. I recommend the audio book because there’s many conversations between parents and children, so a narration with emotion is helpful.
This post is what I’ve learnt.
Don’t treat every child equally. Treat every child uniquely.
You cannot give every child equal time/resource.
You should not buy the same thing for every child, just to be fair.
So instead, treat every child uniquely, providing to their unique needs.
This is still a golden rule. As one of my favorite quote says:
Comparison is the thief of joy
With your kids, the more you should never mention the other one. Just say your piece, without mentioning other names.
Even when you are complimenting.
“You’ve done well” instead of “You’ve done better than Kate”.